When a child or a teen is ” diagnosed” and assigned a label, they begin to own the definition of the label. If for example, a teen is told by a doctor and his parents that he or she has ” anger management ” issues, they begin the process of fulfilling that ” calling ” on their life, just as kids who are constantly reinforced by their parents about their gifts and strengths tend to grow into those gifts.
So whatever the assigned label you give your child , and you openly discuss around them and with other adults, just remember they are kids. They are looking to the people who make impressions in their life, and those they trust to tell them what and who they are. With adults, we have the choice to accept or reject any assigned tags or labels people give us.
Kids don’t have that option yet. As I stress on the homepage, taking a child to the doctor and getting them a DSM diagnoses and some medicine is a whole lot deeper then just another doctors visit. It shapes their path from that point on. The fact that you take them there and concur with the doctor, just serves to reinforce to the child that the whole issue is in fact true.
I am not saying nobody should take a child to the doctor. What I am saying is that before doing so, do your homework, and find out if the problem you re having with them actually warrants a formal diagnoses. If it does then be supportive and honest with your child in overcoming it with the least amount of fanfare possible.