It is great to teach your child social skills and as I have pointed out they will be leaps and bounds ahead of many of their peers just by knowing how to do things like ” Accept No” or ” Follow Instructions”. To take it to the next level and see to it that they are able to use the skills and generalize them into everyday living, the role play is of great value. For instance if you are getting ready to drop Suzy at school, and she has been having difficulty following instructions of her teachers without talking back, you may try this quick trick to set her up for success that day.
Before she gets out of the car, you just do a quick role play with her. Hey Suzy lets do a quick role play on following instructions- I am going to ask you to hand me my purse back there, and I want you to look at me , say ok, hand it to me, then check back, ok honey? Then you proceed to role play and off to class she goes. When her teacher does give her an instruction that day, she is much more likely to have those 4 steps ready to go because you spent 1 minute role playing,.
So far we have introduced the social skill, then talked about ratios of positive to negative comments, and now we bring up the role play, to reinforce that skill you have taught your child in the first place. Its coming together nicely, and soon this can be a regular part of your day with your child. You will be glad you took the extra few minutes to teach the skill and role play, when you realize how many hours you have saved of arguing! As always, I offer a money back guarantee on these too!
Now that you should know the skill following instructions, and the steps required, start adding role plays to the mix to increase your child’s success chances. As I post these tips on parenting, I will start adding one skill each post to teach your child, so his or her skill bank will increase as the days go by!
Skill for today- ACCEPTING NO
Steps to Accepting No- 1- Look at the person
2- Say Ok ( No eye rolling, mumbling, talking back, etc..)
So stay tuned for new skills and new tips and soon you will see a new child with a great set of skills!