Parent Series – Tip Of The Day- Don’t Require A Behavior You Cannot Model

It happens all too often with us parents, We tell our children how wrong it is for them to yell as we scream it from the top of our lungs. We practice the ‘ Do as I say, not as I do” mentality. The problen with that type of teaching is that it wont hold water at all. Children need to see that we are modeling what we are requiring of them in order to validate it’s importance. If it is not important enough for us to demonstrate in our daily lives then they will question why it is important for them. In all honesty they have every right to think like that. 

As we introduce new skills to our children and teach new ways of problem solving, it going to be very important that we are able to show them that we too are holding ourselves accountable in that area. I will be sharing some new parenting tips and skills to teach our kids soon, and it will be important that you be the attitude that you want to be around!



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I am a social worker and family coach for 20+ years. I have had around 50 foster kids , worked in every and any type of facility from juvenile centers to clinical treatment centers to schools for expelled youth . I've been successful with starting schools for violent offenders , training hospital staff , entire counties of public school teachers, parents and many more on behavior management and helping families in trouble . I have been honored to speak on many occasions and to teach professionals what is wrong with our systems for kids and adults, and how I was able to have successful outcomes in all the programs that I ran. And yes- I do have all the accolades and awards and pats on the back from high places and degrees but I'm not in this for that recognition. I appreciate the acknowledgement I've received over the years, but I don't even have an " I love me" wall in the I don't even know where those things are anymore ..LOL I have lived a hard life myself and grew up in a very violent and abusive home. My family Is filled with depression , addiction and suicide. I also have had to navigate my way through these areas . I use my own experience to help others. I hope you will join the awesome people who follow me and share their stories. This Is a place to come to keep it real. We all struggle . So on this site we keep it legit. No judgement. What are you waiting for? Follow! tj

Categories At Risk Families, For mental health workers, Labelling Kids, Motivation, Parenting, Positive Reinforcement, School Behavior Modification, Self worth, Teenagers!, Why do we think and believe what we do?7 Comments

7 thoughts on “Parent Series – Tip Of The Day- Don’t Require A Behavior You Cannot Model”

      1. Thats no excuse. I mean really, I thought of you as dedicated. ..hahaha
        No problem I understand – I just value your thoughts. Have a safe trip.


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