Been Judged Much? You Must Be Real Good at Something!

Been Judged Much? You Must Be Real Good at Something!

Do you ever wonder why people take and make the time to point out something you are doing wrong? To stop what they are doing and come up with the energy to put you down? You must see it all the time, in public, people constantly trying to others feel like less than they are. In the mental health and social work circles I guess we have always attributed it to the idea that if we can effectively pull another down, we are also elevating ourselves in some weird way. Maybe that is true but I think there is more to it and if you are the recipient of judgement frequently you will appreciate this.
People who judge are much like bullies, in that they are insecure, and scared. They are scared of what you may reveal to the rest of the world if we all find out what is RIGHT with you. I have had several supervisors over the years like this, and along with very deep insecurity, they shared this need to expose what is wrong in a person.

Usually if you are being wrongly judged or made to look less than someone else there is a reason. A motive and purpose behind the judging. People who see talent or gifts in you that in their minds exceeds their talent somehow can be hurtful.
Their only hope to feeling good about themselves is to make you appear as less than they do. Especially if you are in some competition professionally or in another way with them.

We all should understand having people judge us is actually a compliment. It’s not the type of compliment a secure person would deliver, but it is just that, a compliment! So the next time somebody judges you say a quiet thank you as you grit your teeth and count to!
If you are not getting judged in something you are doing – Quit slacking!


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I am a social worker and family coach for 20+ years. I have had around 50 foster kids , worked in every and any type of facility from juvenile centers to clinical treatment centers to schools for expelled youth . I've been successful with starting schools for violent offenders , training hospital staff , entire counties of public school teachers, parents and many more on behavior management and helping families in trouble . I have been honored to speak on many occasions and to teach professionals what is wrong with our systems for kids and adults, and how I was able to have successful outcomes in all the programs that I ran. And yes- I do have all the accolades and awards and pats on the back from high places and degrees but I'm not in this for that recognition. I appreciate the acknowledgement I've received over the years, but I don't even have an " I love me" wall in the I don't even know where those things are anymore ..LOL I have lived a hard life myself and grew up in a very violent and abusive home. My family Is filled with depression , addiction and suicide. I also have had to navigate my way through these areas . I use my own experience to help others. I hope you will join the awesome people who follow me and share their stories. This Is a place to come to keep it real. We all struggle . So on this site we keep it legit. No judgement. What are you waiting for? Follow! tj

Categories addiction, ADHD, At Risk Families, Bullying, depression, fellow writers, Homeless, Labelling Kids, Motivation, Parenting, Positive Reinforcement, Racism, Self worth, UncategorizedTags, , , , , , 6 Comments

6 thoughts on “Been Judged Much? You Must Be Real Good at Something!”

  1. I was never happy with myself until I learned to be truly happy for others. Sometimes when I see those I love turning from God, embracing sin by condoning the sinful acts of others so they don’t “hurt their feelings” I will bring it to their intention. Not because I’m judging them I do it because I love them.


  2. People are inclined to pontificate, ‘One has no right to judge anyone.’ Piffle. It is done naturally and constantly. The WAY in which it is done is important. It should be reasoned and informed, and without negative bias.


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