There are so many ways to say this, but the message seems to remain ignored in this world. We use and abuse, slice and dice, carve deep wounds in the lives of other people, yet walk away as apathetic as can be. How pitiful that is.
Our thoughts linger, and become words, our words become actions that have consequences we wish we could reverse. So how can I get myself out of these verbal assaults I begin?
Every thought is an option. We choose to linger on the thought or kick it out, to dwell on the idea or select immediate amputation. Our words are directly related to this process as we are 100% more likely to allow vitriol to slip through our lips, if vitriol is what we think on most. Despite the people who claim ” lack of self-control ” as plea, the facts remain that most people are able to control what they say and when they say it.
I have many examples and case studies that I personally have been involved with, long and short-term. In the end, the number of people who could not demonstrate some reasonable sense of self-control verbally is always a tiny one.
So as they say, let’s keep it real here, and get to the meat of this, minus the usual cop outs we all have used after a string of nasty, foul attacks on people we often care the most about. Let’s not play games about whether we have ” out of control” tempers, or not, as the chance of that being the case is extremely unlikely. We all have convicted ourselves of having some choice in the matter by the way we alter our behavior in different environments.
I rarely if ever have seen a grown up throw a temper ” tantrum” in a library. However I have seen quite a few in Wal-Mart. The point is that we all modify our behavior to a certain extent to fit our circumstances. We adapt to the environment around us, in everyday life.
Why is it that so many people are doing so many crazy things but only at certain times and in certain places? They surely cannot plan when they are going to have an ” outburst ” can they? It must be then, that we all choose when we will act up and to what degree.
I hope you are in agreement at least to this point. If you are , then the question is begging to be asked, why do we allow it of ourselves? Why do we hurt the people we care about the most, the worst? Are we just all lunatics pretending to be ” normal” form 9-5 each day, or are we carefully picking who we say what to?
The answer is for each of us to consider, are we crazy, or are we just mean? I don’t know which one to pick. Is it worse to be insane or insanely inhumane? We are aware of the old sayings that provide us with excuses for hurting one another, you know – ” loved people love people, hurt people hurt people” or ” the apple does not fall far from the tree “.
There is a time and place for these to be considered, not as an excuse for anything, but perhaps part of the cause of something we do or say. Here and now we address the nitty gritty, the ugly truth about how we choose to act to others. The ugly truth is that our words can rip open an old wound faster than Dale Jr. can run a lap in Daytona. Our words, once spoken can be forgiven, but rarely forgotten. You know all the buzz phrases; “you can’t unscramble the eggs”- ” you can’t un-spill the milk” and so on. Words cannot be taken back and they take a long time to get over when misused.
I think it is time we all checked ourselves because some of us are GUILTY. We are in a hurting world, with more hurt being piled on top of the already downtrodden, and wounded warriors out there. We trample our own brothers and sisters for sport, and have the nerve to walk away in a state of apathy, or even more sickening, we post a video about our nasty behavior on the internet, as if it were a badge of honor.
That is another post for another day. Right now, I think we all need to tighten up with our words, because our families need us, and our children need us, and we are sinking like the Titanic in a morally relapsed world, in need of some desperate and immediate care.
We need to back this whole thing up to our thoughts. Do you really want to say that to another human being? Are we done killing each other with the arrows that we call words? I hope so, because people are dying for a change…