Why Are Professional Adults Acting Like Jealous School Children?

Those who enjoy their own emotionally bad health and who habitually fill their own minds with the rank poisons of suspicion, jealousy and hatred, as a rule take umbrage at those who refuse to do likewise, and they find a perverted relief in trying to denigrate them.
Johannes Brahms

We have all seen it or lived with it. Workplace jealousy. Your own professional peers are tearing you down as you are moving forward in your career or excelling at your task. I have been in that position recently and many times in the past and I have found that a few things are effective in dealing with it. First. you must be aware of what you are dealing with. Jealousy is a mental cancer, and you are not going to talk someone into supporting you. It is their baggage, and we cannot change what they have packed.

William Penn said this; “The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves” We must realize that although they may not always present themselves in this way, People who have jealous tendencies are also suffering themselves. Although this may not make you feel any better about what they are saying or doing, it can take away some of the bitterness we might be likely to experience, Bitterness is to be avoided at all costs as it will lead to unforgiveness, which will end up holding us prisoner if we are not careful.

Finally, recognize jealousy for what it is; a compliment to your success. Embrace that as you continue to press forward, knowing that nobody is jealous of unsuccessful people so you must be doing something right! When possible, surround yourself with people who will lift you up and support what you are doing and who you are. These are the people that should make up your core group, not the jealous and insecure people.

i will close with this. To jealousy, nothing is more frightful than laughter. If you have to be around these people in your workplace, laugh. Just laugh your way off the path to bitterness, lest you end up on the wrong side of jealousy yourself.

 

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I am a social worker and family coach for 20+ years. I have had around 50 foster kids , worked in every and any type of facility from juvenile centers to clinical treatment centers to schools for expelled youth . I've been successful with starting schools for violent offenders , training hospital staff , entire counties of public school teachers, parents and many more on behavior management and helping families in trouble . I have been honored to speak on many occasions and to teach professionals what is wrong with our systems for kids and adults, and how I was able to have successful outcomes in all the programs that I ran. And yes- I do have all the accolades and awards and pats on the back from high places and degrees but I'm not in this for that recognition. I appreciate the acknowledgement I've received over the years, but I don't even have an " I love me" wall in the office..so I don't even know where those things are anymore ..LOL I have lived a hard life myself and grew up in a very violent and abusive home. My family Is filled with depression , addiction and suicide. I also have had to navigate my way through these areas . I use my own experience to help others. I hope you will join the awesome people who follow me and share their stories. This Is a place to come to keep it real. We all struggle . So on this site we keep it legit. No judgement. What are you waiting for? Follow! tj

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