MOM Says ” My kids are NOT the center of my world”- Amazing insight from a mother of 0 kids over 4 years old!

Sometimes you read an article or post and the next second, you are pushing your jaw back up into your mouth…..

This happened to me today as I sadly read an brief post from a misinformed parent who decided to randomly cast her decision on bullying out there with no support at all as far as life experience or education that was mentioned at least. Mom has declared publicly, that kids today need to toughen up on the issue of bullying! Suck it up, you who are getting your lunch money stolen and being pushed around! Thats the life we live in she implies, so they will just have to endure hardships. I cannot speak for everyone, but as a parent of five and foster parent to 25, I , umm, well I disagree. I actually am reluctant to say ” disagree” as it implies an opinion, and my statements on bullying and the effects it has on children is not my opinion, it is fact.

With that said, I have to respond to this post (which btw) got 800k views on FB! My response and the response of the people who actually have kids old enough to be bullied, should be something like this; WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?

Comes now a mom with children ages 2 & 4 and has BULLYING figured out? (hahahahahhahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahaha)

At this point she should be glad she is done with diapers and picking out sippy cups, but there is no indication given that she has any authority to speak on the issue of bullying, or parenting actually. Why bother responding to this? Because 800,000 people now have a seed planted in their mind that maybe it is ok to accept bullying as a part of life. It scares me, and I hope many people share this and get a more accurate picture of how things really are. Send this to any major or local publication on parenting you can, so we have a voice in this as well. If you ARE a parent who feels like your kids do NOT come first, please do drop me a line, I would like to interview you!

Bullying is not “acceptable” anytime or anywhere. We do not adjust to bullies, they adjust to us. If mom was being sexually harassed at work or bullied by a another female worker, she may not be so quick to give them a free pass. What comes next, a lazy parent who says that just ” one punch” in the face should be allowed in school? Why even draw a line? Maybe teach our kids to expect and accept 1-2 full on beat downs during middle school? Ok, enough with my sarcasm, but it is a valid point.

I cannot be too hard on this mom for expressing her opinion, it is just sad that so many people read it. As I analyzed her post one final time, it occurred to me that the mystery thinking she laid out so boldly was actually answered within the same article by the same author. Her statement that her kids were NOT the center of her world leads me to believe she is a very selfish person, or perhaps she did not give birth to those 2 little ones she has. I cannot imagine any parent saying that and telling their children to toughen up and expect bullying, rather than educate them on their rights and freedom from harassment.

That is all- I am out!





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I am a social worker and family coach for 20+ years. I have had around 50 foster kids , worked in every and any type of facility from juvenile centers to clinical treatment centers to schools for expelled youth . I've been successful with starting schools for violent offenders , training hospital staff , entire counties of public school teachers, parents and many more on behavior management and helping families in trouble . I have been honored to speak on many occasions and to teach professionals what is wrong with our systems for kids and adults, and how I was able to have successful outcomes in all the programs that I ran. And yes- I do have all the accolades and awards and pats on the back from high places and degrees but I'm not in this for that recognition. I appreciate the acknowledgement I've received over the years, but I don't even have an " I love me" wall in the I don't even know where those things are anymore ..LOL I have lived a hard life myself and grew up in a very violent and abusive home. My family Is filled with depression , addiction and suicide. I also have had to navigate my way through these areas . I use my own experience to help others. I hope you will join the awesome people who follow me and share their stories. This Is a place to come to keep it real. We all struggle . So on this site we keep it legit. No judgement. What are you waiting for? Follow! tj

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