Formula for Success with Your Teens!

Here is a model that I came up with many years ago after working on the front lines with teenagers with every kind of issue you can think of. This is not a  ” magical ” formula that will instantly remove any problems, but I have seen it produce a 50% increase in positive behavior, or progress toward a set goal, in just a few weeks of implementation. This is the foundation, but each topic MUST be applied in the order that you see on here. The key to developing success when working with difficult populations may be surprising, but it has proven itself over and over for many years I have used it. If you confuse the order, you will likely not see progress. The actual training on this is fairly comprehensive, but as a starting point, here is the formula I call RTBASE ( Rightbase).

R- Respect

T- Trust

B- Boundaries

A- Application

S- Support

E- Evaluation

These are the components I have found must be in place to see true change and long term results. If you use the formula in any other order, you will likely see no change. There is teaching to be done on each component and how to develop each, but for now I am sharing a base or a foundation for a certain mindset to get into when having trouble teaching or addressing teens with problem behavior. See if you use any/all of these when YOU are working with or counseling others! You may be surprised!

DLMK

 

Are You Who You Want To Be? Why Not?

Are You Who You Want To Be? Why Not?

The tongue has the power of life and death. Our beliefs about ourselves also are critical to where we end up. Whatever fear is stopping you from getting from where you are, to where you want to be needs to be faced head on, in order to get to the next level.

We decide what we will be, not others. Most times, the faster you rise up, press through and make progress toward your goal, you will get resistance from peers or even family. If you are going to take the fast track to success, be prepared to ignore those that do not like the idea of you moving forward as they stay in limbo. It is part of the refining process to become an independent person who is not looking to others to validate you or your goals. Can you do this? Share any experiences you have had in this area….

 

Kids and Divorce- Tips on what NOT to say…

If you are getting a divorce, thinking about it, or you have already you should know that children internalize the act in many instances. Here are some guidelines on how to reinforce a more accurate view from the children who live through this process. What to say when the chips are down..

http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/challenges-children-face-divorce-3/#!

Label My Kid!

Label my Kid!

Which one has a heart condition? How about AD/HD? Been hospitalized on and off since birth for another condition? Cannot make the call from this perspective? You are not alone!

http://www.dontlabelmykid.com

 

Autism- Can you relate? Lets address it, not change the subject..

Over the years I have worked with many Autistic children, and adults. The spectrum is a wide one, and I have noticed that not many people really know how to handle a person with this challenge. Parents are crying out for help, teachers are writing them up for behavioral problems, and caregivers in general seem to be ready to throw their hands up in the air and give up on effectively working with this population. It may be do to the fear of the unknown, or should I say the fear of the misunderstood? Either way, the bottom line is that it requires extensive and comprehensive education and understanding to appropriately address people with Autism.

Recently I was in contact with someone who is “in the know” on this topic. If you have a loved one with Autism or know someone who does, this is a must follow through post. We change the topic, we throw out our own ideas, teachers get angry, parents are frustrated, clinicians are limited in what they can do. This leaves a giant hole for frustration and lack of valid care and treatment for those with this challenge. I am sharing the website of someone who has a proven track record of educating people who work with and have loved ones in this very specific area that we desperately need support in. Tom is an expert in this area, and I suggest you check him out and see what amazing things he is doing to further the quality of care for the Autistic.

http://www.tomcaffrey.com

Check him out, and share this information with your friends who are at the end of their rope, not sure how to handle what they are facing. Not many times can you access this level of expertise on this topic, so check it out!

 

DLMK

Executive Depression

Executive Depression

The Outside…Things look good on the surface. Is everything good inside? Today it is estimated that out of 50% of people who suffer from the criteria to meet a diagnoses of Major Depressive disorder, only 20% seek treatment. Is this due to a stigma attached to mental health issues? What would you say if someone in your circle revealed that they suffered from a mental health disorder? More importantly what you think? Many people try and ” fake it til they make it ” when it comes to these issues but it does not work. Stay tuned for more information on “Depression in the Workplace” at                                                                                          www.dontlabelmykid.com    (Shhhhhhhhhh! )